Almost everybody has it but nobody likes it. But unfortunately it is seen in most human beings in varying degrees. Its called the green-eyed monster ... 'jealousy'.
If no one wants it and if it is destructive why do people cherish it? May be because they do not know the harm it does, why and how it starts and how to eradicate it. Do we think we too may have it? If the answer is 'no', great! We will be blessed with peace of mind. If we are an unfortunate soul filled with jealousy, try to shed it and be free. It is rewarding.
Why do we experience jealousy? Jealousy is simply a combination of selfishness and lack of self confidence. As long as we have a generous heart and self confidence, we will have no feelings of jealousy at all. When we are not secure, when we are not confident about our abilities, our potential and our skills, we become jealous. We are scared of being replaced. "If I cannot have it, you can't have it!" is the basic theme of a jealous person. Others may have many riches, talents, opportunities. So what? Why should we have what all the others have? It is not necessary. It is not what they have that burn us, but our heart. Our thoughts. We should learn to change the way we think,the way we feel and act. Breaking free from jealousy starts with our thoughts.
Understanding our own worth is the best and probably the fastest and surest way. Each one of us is unique. Believe and enjoy that thought. Feel it and be confident about the fact that we are special. We do not lose anything by being happy about others' happiness. Our happiness comes when we are a blessing to them. A jealous person cannot be blessing.
Secondly, comparison gives way to jealousy. We always try to compare ourselves with others and try to do better. This competitive attitude is destructive and makes us bitter, not better. People who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than others. When competition, comparison and feeling of inadequacy are combined, it is a negative force. When we see someone excelling at something or threatening, we become jealous. Stop comparing ourselves to other people. We are unique and we do not have to compete and defeat anyone to be a winner. Be happy that we have qualities that others do not have and try to be a blessing to someone else. We experience happiness only when we are a blessing to someone else. God has given us so many wonderful gifts that many other people do not have. Focus on using those gifts to help someone else.
Learn this art soon. Do not delay. Otherwise, whenever someone gets something that we wanted, we will feel insecure and jealous, and we will be continously unhappy and disturbed. If we are confident about ourselves and if we have a good heart there will be no jealousy in us.
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